feel confident about your response when your daughter is:
upset at the mirror
complaining about a teammate
hurting from an social media post
THE PARENT MindBodyWin
“Your relationship becomes something you both value as you ride this roller coaster together”
STep 1: mind
Just like your daughter, you are also experiencing Stress, investment, hope, and criticism. How are you speaking about the experience?
She’s hearing feedback about her performance and internalizing it depending on her current mood. She’s hearing your feedback and doing the same. clarify what your role is in her feedback and what to say.
Step 3: body
Conversations around her body and appearance will effect her current performance and effect her long term confidence and self image. This is something all women want to get right at the teenage stage and the mom stage.
Helping your daughter navigate rejection, comparison, and opportunity cycles.
find more peace for you and her around body image, self talk, costume or uniform fit, mirror time, and performance through her body.
Step 2: win
Separating your daughter’s identity, and your identity, from her performances.
Supporting long-term confidence about her as a whole person.
define success for her, and for you (they may not be the same), so you have a north star to steer your talks and keep you in her corner.
it’s common to support girls by telling them that their insecurities should be erased
BUT…
every woman can quickly list their imperfections and things they would like to change about their appearance.
so let’s stop trying to convince our daughter that she shouldn’t have them or want to change them.
recognize her updated struggles as she ages out of some problems and in to new ones